Monday, December 23, 2013

The Guide To Last Minute Fashionista Gifts: So Simple Any Man Can Understand


Hey, you!  Dude!  Looking for a last minute gift for a fashionista in your life?  First of all---shame on you!  Why didn’t you get started back in November?  Oh, yes, I know, work is so engrossing and if you’d abandoned your online game in mid-quest, Hermador the Vindictive would have lost all his magical spell-points to the fuzzy elves in the Forest of Murkaway.  Well, it’s time to make amends.  The Faculty Fashionista is here to help!  I won’t recommend specific products (since nobody’s paying me to plug them!) but I do hope I can give you some reasonable ideas.  And yes, I’m talking to you, Bucko, cause women generally have more sense than to let things wait until T minus 48 hours and counting.

First of all, spend just a few moments in your lady’s bathroom.  Go on, it won’t hurt you!  Look closely.  What do you see?  Does she use a lot of beauty products?  Is her bathtub lined with scented soaps and candles?  Do some of her things look worn out and sad?  Now take a quick glance in her closet.  Are her possessions well organized or dumped on the floor?  Do you notice particular kinds of accessories, like big bracelets or scarves?  Ok, now, quick---get out of there before she catches you!

As you cruise to the mall, accept one thing right now…you could have done better.  But you also could do a lot worse.  If you’re thinking, “I could just run to Wal-Mart and get her an iron,” stop it!  And if you are seriously considering purchasing one of those animated singing fishes to stick on a wall, please keep driving until you reach another state because she is better off without you.

So you’ve arrived at your destination.  Here are some suggestions, based on what I hope you observed amid her lair.

Luxury hair styling equipment.  Ladies go through hairbrushes and combs all the time, but if you can find a set that is really beautiful, maybe fixed in silver or with a mother-of-pearl handle, it could become an heirloom.  Boar hair bristles are more expensive, but they also do a better job and are gentler on hair than the nylon bristles in the brush she’s probably using right now.  If she sets her hair on hot rollers or a curling iron, that’s also a possibility, because those things do wear out over time, and even if she’d prefer to stick with what she’s using now I can guarantee you that it will wear out and quit on the morning that she has a big presentation at work and needs to look spectacular.  Who’s the hero then---it’s you, Christmas chump, it’s you!


A classy compact.  Yes, it’s a bit of an old school gift, but if she wears lipstick she has to check it, and I bet you’re tired of her always pulling down the visor in the front seat of the car to use that lighted mirror.  Here’s where knowing something about her is helpful, because if she’s the playful type you can score with the rhinestone-studded, blinged-out one, or if she’s more demure, you can win points by choosing a classic style in silver or gold.  Bonus points if you can get it engraved.


Perfume.  Always a safe choice, if you know what brand she favors.  Did you write down the name?  Can you at least remember what the bottle looks like?  Odds are that if she likes a pricier brand (and you know these because they sell them in the middle of department stores and you always sneeze when you walked through their midst), then she probably has a bottle of cologne but hasn’t sprung for the hand cream, body wash, or powder, which seem like indulgences.  One word of warning though---if you can’t be sure of which kind she likes, take a pass.  From her point of view, there’s nothing worse than a basket filled with perfume that she thinks smells like bug spray.

Beautiful travel totes.  Just because you throw your things in a plastic bag doesn’t mean she will.  There are specialized carrying cases for makeup and jewelry; they end up in different places in stores so you will have to swallow your pride and ask where you can find them.  These bags have linings and compartments that keep powders and paints from spilling all over each other in transit and prevent necklaces from getting tangled.  Travel cases are almost always are distinguished by their fabric, which is covered with florals and French phrases, or with poodles and the Eiffel Tower; this is because all women fantasize about being French women.

A jewelry box.  If you noticed that her bangles and beads are dumped out across her closet floor, it might be time to invest in a jewelry box.  Please don’t go get something from the children’s department with Cinderella on it, and don’t fall for those $10 holiday specials at the discount store that won’t even hold her watch and two pairs of earrings.  Find a box that has at least two or three layers and multiple sections for different types of baubles.  The wood should gleam, and if you go for metal, be sure it looks like a treasure chest (which it is!).  And remember that this is another item that can be personalized with an engraved plate inside, thus turning a last-minute gift into something that she might treasure forever.


Gift Certificates.  OK, sit down for a minute, because we need to talk.  There is nothing more debatable than the merits of gift cards.  Some people love them and a lot of people hate them.  You need to think if your lady has ever expressed an opinion on the matter.  The down side of a gift card is that it doesn’t demonstrate a whole lot of thought on the giver’s part and it can’t be put to use on Christmas Day (nor can it be returned for a refund).  But on the positive side, if it’s for a place or a product that she really likes, and that you feel incompetent to pursue for her, it might be just the ticket out of the Yuletide doghouse.  So you’re on your own here.  Might I suggest, though, if you go the gift card route, that you at least consider something a bit more unique and super pampering, like the gift of a day at a spa.  Even better, make it an upcoming adventure you can share, like a morning of horseback riding, a romantic evening at a fancy hotel, or tickets to a play.  Whatever you do, don’t give her a Christmas gift card to somewhere she goes all the time, like Target or the grocery store.  Nothing screams ‘I couldn’t be bothered to think about you’ any louder than that.



I’ve approached this topic with humor, but to conclude I want to say one very serious thing.  Before you wrap whatever gift you’ve chosen for the lady in your life, take a moment to think about what she means to you.  And then say it.  Write it down and stick it in with that gift.  She may forget (and hopefully forgive) that uninspired package of bath salts or that gift subscription to a magazine she already receives, as long as there’s a message that is honest and heartfelt inside the package.  Christmas really shouldn’t be about products but about the way we feel.  Tell her how much you love her, how beautiful she is, how you couldn’t imagine your life without her.


That’s what every woman with a man in her life really wants for Christmas.

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